Aiyla PoV

"Family is supposed to

Be our safe haven

Very often, it's the

Place where we find

The deepest heartache"

Iyanle Vanzant

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It is said that you are the reflection of your family whatever good and bad action you take and act, it reflects on the values and culture of your family...

It directly or indirectly shows your upbringing, behaviour, culture, values and norms of your family.

Having a family for a children is a blessing and not everyone is fortunate to have a family. So, it's good to value what you have.

Every children children is entitled to grow with a happy and loving family. It is important for a children to live and spend time in a loving, secure and stable environment.

Once a child is born, it's their broth right to have a good, healthy and stable family but there is also a harsh truth not every child or person is lucky to have a stable family.

Family means a world and universe to everyone...

Family also means love, support,trust, sacrifice, honesty, protection, security, acceptance, respect and loyalty without these no family can be complete.

Family is the main pillar for a person and also for a child while growing up. It also influences the upbringing, social character and personality of the child...

Family is the place where a child learns to be ethical, compassionate, fair, honest and to love and care. It also teaches the values of life for living a good and healthy life.

Family also act as a catalyst for children where they first learn the basic values, norms of the society and culture.

A child also needs to be carefully nurtured, cherished and mold them into being a responsible person.

It is families responsibility and job to provide a child with the best child care. So, they can grow up into being a physically, me tally and emotionally strong individuals.

Family also teaches you how to be a better person. They are the ones who believes in you, have faith in you and stands with you when the whole world is doubting you and they are the ones who will cheer you up when you are down.

Family helps to mould you, contributes in your growth and development, support you and be there in high's and Low.

My family and life was like a dream to me... a beautiful dream from which I never wanted to wake up from.

I had hope and aim to fly high with their love and support.

But dreams are dreams right! It could break anytime without you being aware of what's happening around you.

Life can be funny and unfair sometimes nobody knows what happens in a moment or seconds...

Just like the phrase "what you have today maybe gone tomorrow"..

Life sure is full of surprises and uncertainties.

In other words, you could say life is like roller coaster ride with lots of ups and downs.

What does it mean for a child to have a stable family and how it reflects in a child's life...

what if that family was the reason for a child's sorrow, pain and abuse...

So, how was that child going to cope and survive her agonizing life which is the cause of her tear...

How was that child going to shape her life and future...

Family which was also the key of her life is the one breaking her apart; how can she trust people and feel secure if she cannot trust her only family and feel safe within.

As the above phrase describes "Family was suppose to be my safe haven but it's also the place where I got my deepest heartache from" This is my story, my "Survival Journey"!

My name is Aiyla Sequeira, born in rich and big joint family including mom, dad, elder brother, uncle, aunts, grand pa and 3 cousins. Being the youngest child of the family sure came with advantages.

I was loved, cared, adored, spoiled, well protected; you could say I was like doll to everyone and I was a happy child as far as I know and remember.

My parents loved me a lot and my brother was very protective of me, I had a happy family. Both me and my brother were lucky for having such a family or that's what we were made to perceive.

People use to say I was born with a silver spoon, they use to call me millionaire's grand daughter when I think of it it's like a joke to me now.

Sure, I was born in rich and well known family; sure I did spend my half childhood in luxury, love, care and protection but it was just an illusion.. a fantasy which was short lived.

Therefore, I would not call myself born with a silver spoon child as it was only temporary. Sure there are children who are really born with good fate, stable family and who does not even know what suffering and pain is..

Hell! I did not knw about sorrow, suffering and pain until I experienced it but before that I had a perfect and stable childhood.

When I think of people who use to say I had a good fate I laugh at it, it's like a joke to me now; a brutal joke!!!

I had a twisted fate, who knew life can be so unpredictable and cruel.

Earlier I said life is uncertain well it was the same for me. My happy days were gone in a flash.

In warped way life played a notorious game with me and my life changed dramatically. All my hopes, dreams got crushed; it left me broken and mash.

My family my life was just a delusion for me. Everything once I believed, trusted were all a big lie and fake. The love, faith, trust I had in me and for my family all got destroyed and I was left smashed, broken and beyond repair.

And once a happy family was fucked up and gutted. Now all there is left a memories, fragments "good and bad" which I cherish and which also haunts me and bring tears to my eyes; leaves my heart in pain.